Dealing With Change
Life is constantly changing. Our circumstances change, we grow older, our children grow up, our jobs change, where we live changes, even the people (families aside) we spend time with changes. How do you feel about change? Does it scare you or excite you? Does it make you feel stressed and anxious or do you look forward to the prospect of change? Generally speaking do you embrace change, go with the flow or do you resist change?
Change is not always easy, especially when it’s forced upon us, such as losing your job due to retrenchment. This can lead to feelings of fear, loss, insecurity, shock, disbelief, powerlessness, anger and depression. It is normal to feel these negative emotions initially. How we cope and deal with change is largely determined by our feelings and attitude towards it.
Change is inevitable. Accepting change is the first step to making the transition easier. The more readily we accept it, the happier and more peaceful our lives will become. Finding meaning in the change can lead to acceptance. As yourself “what does this change mean to me”? How will it affect me? What opportunities are there for me now? Start to see the positive possibilities in the situation. An example of this could be when your children are grown and find yourself with an ’empty nest’, you could take up a hobby you’ve always been meaning to start or do volunteer or charity work. Going back to the example of having lost your job, consider a change in career (maybe you’ve always wanted to do something completely different), working in or moving to another city. Explore your options.
Once you have decided on your course of action, commit to your decision. Plan how to reach your goals and take action! Who knows, the change you’re going through may be the catalyst for you to do something you’ve always dreamed of.
To summarize, when it comes to change :
acknowledge and deal with your feelings,
find meaning in it,
explore opportunities and positive possibilities,
commit, plan and take action.
Change can be challenging but it’s not all bad! Change helps us to grow, experience and learn new things. It’s what makes life interesting and it helps us to appreciate our lives as they are now.